Child reflects all his desires and fears

By the end of adolescence formed a stable system of internally coherent perceptions of the self (theory of the self). While it may not coincide with the real “I” or the way parents see their child.

In 11-12 years child wants to understand, what it is, that is to build their ideal self. Self-knowledge happens through friends: teen compares themselves with others, analyzes. A teen reflection: friendship is of a confessional character, writing diaries and poems. In them, the child reflects all their desires, fears…

The original images are different:

– I – physical (ideas about how your body looks, figure),

I – intellectual (thinking skills are assessed),

– I – the nature of (what I as a person, friend; this includes behavioural traits).

The images are not linked, but at a different degree of realism. Thus, you get a perfect idea of the ideal “I”. Beliefs about themselves dynamic and unstable. These views are only emerging, so teenagers are sensitive to words, etc.

We can say that the built in “I – concept”, the teenager and trying to develop (especially if it’s not the real “I”). For example, a physically disabled child in “self – concept” laid – healthy. Such a child will attempt to tighten yourself physically. And often it will work out (though not fully).

If the level of claims is high, and awareness of their capabilities is not likely to occur neuroticism (resentment, stubbornness – like symptoms inconsistencies “I” and ideal “I” is real).

When the awareness of “I” – right there is a real opportunity to correct their “deficiencies”, to improve themselves, i.e. to take the first steps of self-actualization.

The main task of the parents to help the child learn how to assess yourself, but do not be upset, and calmly solve problems step by step.

Changes in levels of self-regulation: able to delay the desire, to weigh the possibilities and the real situation. Still, most teenagers believe in the miracle.

At the end of adolescence, the images are added together.

There is a SECOND BIRTH of the PERSON.

What will Your child depends on You and Your relationship. We hope that the knowledge about the complexities of adolescence and the laws of its development will help You to avoid many mistakes and save children a good relationship provided for the post by International Adoption research blogger and columnist.

3 thoughts on “Child reflects all his desires and fears

  1. Installed age dynamics of the formation of self-concept in the system of the spiritual needs of adolescents. The results of the research identified a relatively high percentage of adolescents with a medium level of satisfaction of spiritual needs. The data indicate that 2% of the respondents have low and 46.7% of the average level of formation of self-concept in the system of spiritual needs. Note that the number of low, high and very high levels of formation of self-concept are the level of claims on the change in the satisfaction of spiritual needs. Empirical data show that the process of formation of self-concept in the system of the spiritual needs of adolescents remains uneven.
    The study was studied the age dynamics of personality-the role of reflection adolescents and identified its levels.
    Low I-reflexive in adolescents up to 12 years to increase the number of subjects with this level of reflection. To 15 years stabilized and is the same number of teenagers as 10 years. In adolescents with a medium level of reflection decreases in the number of 11-12 years, and 13-15 years – is increasing. The number of adolescents with the highest level I-reflective with age does not change. 63.3% of adolescents have average level I-reflective.
    Analysis of age dynamics of reflection as a teenager yourself as a participant in the activities of the group indicates an increase in the number of subjects with a medium level of reflection, with 66.7%. There is a reduction in the number of teenagers with a high level of reflection and reaches 13.3 per cent. Age dynamics levels I-reflexive in adolescents also has a spasmodic character. The results of the age dynamics of the impact of valuation effects on the formation of self-evaluation, needs assessment in a positive and appropriate critical evaluation in adolescents showed that 63.4% of adolescents are equally important and the evaluation of other, and self-esteem. Moreover, in adolescents 12 years of age is more important than the last, but important both in 14-15. Great satisfaction experienced by the adolescents, when they are estimated correctly(78,4%) and when overrated (20%), and worry if they underestimate. This is true for boys and girls. Therefore, in the complex and lengthy process of becoming self-concept of adolescents reflects a qualitative change in its structure, and the evaluation of the other could radically change the attitude.


  2. The study of the real process of formation of self-concept of modern teenagers, revealing his typical and the most significant contradictions were carried out with use of complex of methods: a modified method of T. V. Dembo – C. J. Rubinstein, personal-role reflection, identification of age dynamics of the impact of valuation effects on the formation of self-evaluation, needs assessment in a positive and appropriate critical and self-critical adolescents at A. I. Lipkin and A. L. Fisher; the scale of socio-psychological adaptation K. Rogers; the method of “final sentences” Sachs and Sydney; the essay “I have in the past, present and future”; graphic methods “self-Portrait”, “landscape of my childhood”, “the Flower that I like”, “Favorite toys of childhood”, “the Animal that I like”. Data processing was performed using the methods of statistical analysis of the data with their subsequent psychological interpretation, determine the value of the average assessment. Sample psychological research using the above sets of diagnostic methods was 60 adolescents of secondary school No. 450 of Moscow.
    Implementation of psychodiagnostic research program of the process of formation of self-concept of adolescents allowed to identify age-related dynamics of the significance of spiritual needs for Teens. The most important were: the need for achievement, moral needs, labour demand, cognitive demand, the need for well-being and freedom. The least important needs: postah the meaning of life, self-upbringing, self-affirmation, a positive assessment in the works. The importance of achievement needs increases dramatically in adolescents in 11 years and remained stable at a high level in during the whole of adolescence. The moral importance of needs, labour demand, communication, on the contrary, drops sharply to 11-12, and then reaches a higher level to 14-15 years.
    There is a tendency to “zazemlenie” needs. 25% of respondents do not attach importance to the needs for finding meaning in life and in art, are limited to the achievement of their personal goals, personal well-being and do not bother issues of self-assertion, self-education.

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  3. Self-concept – internal, existential core of the individual; the product of the reflection system of relations of the individual to himself and to the outside world. the element of personal education, which are consistent with all the actions, emotions, feelings, actions, behavior, psychological health and success in practice. Is the authorizing mechanism for the relation of personality to yourself and the outside world. Is formed according to the laws of logic-verbal thinking. It links quality with respect to itself and the outside world in the past, present and future. Partially exists and in the sphere of the unconscious.
    The model of self-concept is a dynamic, relatively stable, multi-channel and multi-faced, emotionally-evaluative, hierarchical system. Its structure brings together components of consciousness, self-awareness, relationships and sootnoshenii, samosoznaniia. The interaction spheres of the conscious and the unconscious is connected with the system of psychological protection that exists at the subconscious level of the unconscious. The result is the image I (system perception), integrating dynamic interaction of the I-real, I-ideal and I is fantastic.

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